The Question of Nithish

For Nithish
it has to be longer than five minutes,
and no mother present.
What’s wrong with this?
It gives him room to breathe.
He can be himself again.
He doesn’t have to obey his parents.
He can see me freely and openly and clearly.
He can tell me anything he wants.
We can be together without any interference from anyone else.
We can be our special relationship.
I can explain things to him.
He can explain things to me.
He can tell me what he wants from me,
and how he feels about me,
and what he expects me to do.
We can be together again.

If you are looking for total control,
you’re not gonna get it,
Sandiya and Sundar.
He has needs that you are not meeting.
In not letting him see me
you’re only meeting your own.
Why are your needs so much more important than his?
You are offended that I threatened you with this and that.
I was genuinely hurt when Sandiya brought a policeman to put me in jail.
I have made no case or complaint against you.
I have merely tried to see Nithish,
because I know
he needs me too,
and to cut me out of his life like that,
because you were angry with me,
and allow no contact whatsoever,
has brutalized this boy,
broken his heart,
torn his mind,
and made him at times wish he were dead.
He cannot tell you these things.
There is not that level of trust there.
He cannot trust you not to beat him,
scold him,
or tell him how he should think and feel.
You are not on his side.
You are on yours.

I am a parent of this child.
Reality shows that not some legal piece of paper.
You disregard that like it’s nothing.
Take the time to view these videos,
and tell me I am a bad parent,
and I have nothing to give him
that is valuable for his future life.
I can give him things you cannot.
You can give him things that I can’t.
Why are you being so selfish about this boy?
Why do you want to own him so?
Is it a matter of pride?
He’s yours and you want him and that’s it?
Is it because I’m a foreigner,
and we are all devils?
Or is it because he loves me so,
as much as he loves you,
and you just can’t stand that?

What about his needs?
That’s what I’m talking about here,
and I’m showing you that I meet.
I have asked you for time alone with him,
so he and I can determine what we want.
Are you afraid he will put you in jail?
That’s not our intention or our aim.
We simply want to be together again,
and I’m asking for a first meeting
to allow that to happen,
slowly,
and with everybody’s goodwill,
not some final meeting where he’s forced to say goodbye,
and you have pumped him with what he should say,
and you are there guarding him so he will say it.
Are you sure you know right from wrong?
You are not being right here.

Let’s talk about the future Nithish.
You have broken his heart,
crushed the love of one of the most important people in his life,
made his mind think badly about me,
mean things,
and you expect him to be a decent person,
a good man?
You have killed love,
and you have killed his kindness,
and you have killed his compassion.
What can of man will he become?
A mean man.

What kind of boy is he now?
Is he disconfigured?
How easily does he become aggressive,
or angry?
Is he often rude?
Does he brood a lot?
Does he get lost in himself?
Where has the Nithish gone,
that not so perfect boy
before you took him?
He was not perfect but he was a good little boy,
kindhearted and understanding.
Now all the bad elements have taken over in him,
have they not?

I know you see a difference.
Look at his weight.
I’m sorry Sandiya he played outside here too.
You can see the videos.
He did not just sit around all the time.
So where did all that weight go?
He’s been very unhappy inside,
emotionally upset,
sick in his heart
and aggravated in his mind,
and the control you put on him,
to keep him away from me,
a boy just putting on his teenage wings,
is enough to make any boy mad.

Why are you doing all of this
I ask again.
Did he do anything wrong?
He loves a foreign man
and prefers that hand to raise him over yours.
That’s his great sin.
He needs you he needs me,
but he prefers the home that I give him,
and I think we’ve hit the soul of your anger.
You’re mad at him for that,
and you hate me for it.
So you punish him and you punish me,
with heartache and mental pain.
When will it stop?

It doesn’t stop.
Time only hides it,
and it not only haunts you for the rest of your life,
it makes you angry and mean,
bitter,
distrustful of the world
and of human relationship.
I am quoting human psychology.
You only know your gut-level reaction.
Can you grow up a little,
Sandiya, Sundar?
Can you meet the needs of your child
over your own?

Let us have a first meeting,
the boy and I,
our own private greeting,
and then we go from there.
It’s the human thing to do.
Do I need to ask if you are human?
Okay please let us begin,
at the Mother’s balcony.
Lidya can bring him.
We can talk a few minutes
in privacy,
and I can show him his new YouTube video,
and then she can bring him back.
Then we go from there,
like I said,
in heartbeats
Nithish.
Pardon the Tamil. I used Google Translate
நித்திஷின் கேள்வி

நிதிஷ் சார்பில்
இது ஐந்து நிமிடங்களுக்கு மேல் இருக்க வேண்டும்,
மற்றும் அம்மா இல்லை.
இதில் என்ன தவறு?
அது அவருக்கு சுவாசிக்க இடமளிக்கிறது.
அவர் மீண்டும் தானே ஆக முடியும்.
அவன் பெற்றோருக்குக் கீழ்ப்படிய வேண்டியதில்லை.
அவர் என்னை சுதந்திரமாகவும் வெளிப்படையாகவும் தெளிவாகவும் பார்க்க முடியும்.
அவர் என்ன வேண்டுமானாலும் என்னிடம் சொல்லலாம்.
யாருடைய குறுக்கீடும் இல்லாமல் நாம் ஒன்றாக இருக்க முடியும்.
நாங்கள் எங்கள் சிறப்பு உறவாக இருக்கலாம்.
நான் அவருக்கு விஷயங்களை விளக்க முடியும்.
அவர் எனக்கு விஷயங்களை விளக்க முடியும்.
அவர் என்னைப் பற்றி எப்படி உணருகிறார்,
நான் என்ன செய்ய வேண்டும் என்று அவர் எதிர்பார்க்கிறார்.
நாம் மீண்டும் ஒன்றாக இருக்கலாம்.

நீங்கள் முழு கட்டுப்பாட்டையும் தேடுகிறீர்கள் என்றால்,
நீங்கள் அதைப் பெற மாட்டீர்கள்,
சந்தியா மற்றும் சுந்தர்.
நீங்கள் சந்திக்காத தேவைகள் அவருக்கு உள்ளன.
என்னை பார்க்க விடாமல் செய்ததில்
நீங்கள் உங்கள் சொந்தத்தை மட்டுமே சந்திக்கிறீர்கள்.
அவரை விட உங்கள் தேவைகள் ஏன் மிகவும் முக்கியமானவை?
நான் உன்னை இப்படியும் அதையும் சொல்லி மிரட்டினேன் என்று கோபித்துக் கொண்டாய்.
சந்தியா என்னை சிறையில் அடைக்க ஒரு போலீஸ்காரரை அழைத்து வந்தபோது நான் உண்மையிலேயே காயப்பட்டேன்.
நான் உங்கள் மீது எந்த வழக்கும் புகாரும் செய்யவில்லை.
நான் நித்திஷைப் பார்க்க முயற்சித்தேன்.
ஏனென்றால் எனக்கு தெரியும்
அவனுக்கும் நான் தேவை
அதுபோல அவனுடைய வாழ்க்கையிலிருந்து என்னை நீக்கவும்,
நீ என் மீது கோபமாக இருந்ததால்,
மற்றும் எந்த தொடர்பும் வேண்டாம்
இந்த சிறுவனை கொடூரமாக கொன்றான்
அவரது இதயத்தை உடைத்து,
அவன் மனதை கிழித்து,
மேலும் சில சமயங்களில் அவர் இறந்துவிட்டதாக ஆசைப்பட வைத்தார்.
இந்த விஷயங்களை அவர் உங்களிடம் சொல்ல முடியாது.
அந்த அளவு நம்பிக்கை அங்கு இல்லை.
அவனை அடிக்காதே என்று உன்னை நம்ப முடியாது.
அவனை திட்டி,
அல்லது அவர் எப்படி நினைக்க வேண்டும் மற்றும் உணர வேண்டும் என்று சொல்லுங்கள்.
நீங்கள் அவர் பக்கம் இல்லை.
நீங்கள் உங்கள் மீது இருக்கிறீர்கள்.

நான் இந்தக் குழந்தையின் பெற்றோர்.
சில சட்டப்பூர்வ காகிதம் அல்ல என்பதை உண்மை காட்டுகிறது.
அது ஒன்றுமில்லை என்பது போல் நீங்கள் புறக்கணிக்கிறீர்கள்.
இந்த வீடியோக்களை பார்க்க நேரம் ஒதுக்குங்கள்,
நான் ஒரு மோசமான பெற்றோர் என்று சொல்லுங்கள்
மேலும் அவருக்கு கொடுக்க என்னிடம் எதுவும் இல்லை
அது அவரது எதிர்கால வாழ்க்கைக்கு மதிப்புமிக்கது.
உங்களால் முடியாததை என்னால் அவருக்கு கொடுக்க முடியும்.
என்னால் முடியாததை நீங்கள் அவருக்குக் கொடுக்கலாம்.
இந்த பையனிடம் ஏன் இவ்வளவு சுயநலமாக இருக்கிறீர்கள்?
நீ ஏன் அவனை இப்படி சொந்தமாக்க விரும்புகிறாய்?
பெருமைக்குரிய விஷயமா?
அவர் உங்களுடையவர், நீங்கள் அவரை விரும்புகிறீர்களா?
நான் வெளிநாட்டவர் என்பதனாலா,
நாம் அனைவரும் பிசாசுகளா?
அல்லது அவர் என்னை மிகவும் நேசிப்பதாலா?
அவர் உன்னை எவ்வளவு நேசிக்கிறார்,
மற்றும் உங்களால் தாங்க முடியவில்லையா?
அவரது தேவைகள் பற்றி என்ன?

அதைத்தான் நான் இங்கே பேசுகிறேன்,
நான் சந்திப்பதை உங்களுக்குக் காட்டுகிறேன்.
அவனுடன் தனியாக நேரம் கேட்டேன்.
அதனால் என்ன வேண்டும் என்பதை அவரும் நானும் தீர்மானிக்க முடியும்.
அவர் உங்களை சிறையில் அடைத்துவிடுவார் என்று பயப்படுகிறீர்களா?
அது எங்கள் நோக்கமோ நோக்கமோ அல்ல.
நாங்கள் மீண்டும் ஒன்றாக இருக்க விரும்புகிறோம்,
மற்றும் நான் முதல் சந்திப்பைக் கேட்கிறேன்
அது நடக்க அனுமதிக்க,
மெதுவாக,
மற்றும் அனைவரின் நல்லெண்ணத்துடன்,
அவர் விடைபெற வேண்டிய கட்டாயத்தில் இருக்கும் இறுதி சந்திப்பு அல்ல,
மேலும் அவர் என்ன சொல்ல வேண்டும் என்று நீங்கள் அவரைத் தூண்டினீர்கள்,
நீங்கள் அங்கே அவரைக் காத்துக்கொண்டிருக்கிறீர்கள், அதனால் அவர் அதைச் சொல்வார்.
சரி தவறா என்று உறுதியாக அறிவீர்களா?
நீங்கள் இங்கே சரியாக இருக்கவில்லை.

நித்திஷின் எதிர்காலத்தைப் பற்றி பேசலாம்.
நீங்கள் அவரது இதயத்தை உடைத்துவிட்டீர்கள்,
அவரது வாழ்க்கையில் மிக முக்கியமான நபர்களில் ஒருவரின் அன்பை நசுக்கினார்,
அவன் மனதை என்னை பற்றி தவறாக நினைக்க வைத்தது
பொருள்,
அவர் ஒரு ஒழுக்கமான நபராக இருக்க வேண்டும் என்று நீங்கள் எதிர்பார்க்கிறீர்கள்,
நல்ல மனிதனா?
காதலை கொன்றாய்,
நீங்கள் அவருடைய இரக்கத்தைக் கொன்றுவிட்டீர்கள்,
நீங்கள் அவருடைய இரக்கத்தைக் கொன்றுவிட்டீர்கள்.
அவன் என்ன மனிதனாக ஆவான்?
ஒரு சராசரி மனிதன்.

இப்போது எப்படிப்பட்ட பையன்?
அவர் சிதைந்துவிட்டாரா?
அவர் எவ்வளவு எளிதாக ஆக்ரோஷமாக மாறுகிறார்
அல்லது கோபமா?
அவர் அடிக்கடி முரட்டுத்தனமாக இருக்கிறாரா?
அவர் நிறைய அடைகாக்கிறாரா?
தனக்குள்ளேயே தொலைந்து விடுகிறாரா?
நிதீஷ் எங்கே போனார்?
அவ்வளவு சரியான பையன் இல்லை
நீங்கள் அவரை அழைத்துச் செல்வதற்கு முன்?
அவர் சரியானவர் அல்ல, ஆனால் அவர் ஒரு நல்ல சிறு பையன்,
அன்பான மற்றும் புரிதல்.
இப்போது அனைத்து கெட்ட கூறுகளும் அவருக்குள் ஆக்கிரமித்துள்ளன,
இல்லையா?

நீங்கள் ஒரு வித்தியாசத்தைப் பார்க்கிறீர்கள் என்று எனக்குத் தெரியும்.
அவருடைய எடையைப் பாருங்கள்.
சந்தியா இங்கேயும் வெளியில் விளையாடியதற்கு மன்னிக்கவும்.
நீங்கள் வீடியோக்களைப் பார்க்கலாம்.
அவர் எல்லா நேரமும் சும்மா உட்கார்ந்திருக்கவில்லை.

அப்படியானால் அந்த எடை எல்லாம் எங்கே போனது?
அவர் உள்ளே மிகவும் மகிழ்ச்சியற்றவராக இருந்தார்,
உணர்ச்சிவசப்பட்டு,
அவரது இதயத்தில் உடம்பு
மற்றும் அவரது மனதில் மோசமாகி,
நீங்கள் அவர் மீது வைத்திருக்கும் கட்டுப்பாடு,
அவனை என்னிடமிருந்து விலக்கி வைக்க,
ஒரு சிறுவன் தனது டீனேஜ் இறக்கைகளை அணிந்து கொண்டான்,
எந்த பையனையும் பைத்தியமாக்க போதும்.

ஏன் இப்படியெல்லாம் செய்கிறீர்கள்
மீண்டும் கேட்கிறேன்.
அவர் ஏதாவது தவறு செய்தாரா?
அவர் ஒரு வெளிநாட்டு மனிதனை காதலிக்கிறார்
உங்கள் கையை விட அவரை உயர்த்த அந்த கையை விரும்புகிறது.
அது அவருடைய பெரிய பாவம்.
அவனுக்கு நீ வேண்டும் அவனுக்கு நான் வேண்டும்
ஆனால் நான் கொடுக்கும் வீட்டை அவர் விரும்புகிறார்.
உங்கள் கோபத்தின் ஆன்மாவை நாங்கள் தாக்கியுள்ளோம் என்று நினைக்கிறேன்.
அதற்காக நீங்கள் அவர் மீது கோபமாக இருக்கிறீர்கள்,
அதற்காக நீங்கள் என்னை வெறுக்கிறீர்கள்.
எனவே நீங்கள் அவரை தண்டிக்கிறீர்கள், என்னையும் தண்டிக்கிறீர்கள்.
இதய வலி மற்றும் மன வலியுடன்.
அது எப்போது நிறுத்தப்படும்?


அது நிற்காது.
காலம் அதை மட்டும் மறைக்கிறது
அது உங்கள் வாழ்நாள் முழுவதும் உங்களைத் துன்புறுத்துவது மட்டுமல்ல,
இது உங்களை கோபமாகவும், அர்த்தமாகவும் ஆக்குகிறது
கசப்பான,
உலகின் மீது அவநம்பிக்கை
மற்றும் மனித உறவு.
நான் மனித உளவியலை மேற்கோள் காட்டுகிறேன்.
உங்கள் குடல் நிலை எதிர்வினை மட்டுமே உங்களுக்குத் தெரியும்.
கொஞ்சம் வளர முடியுமா,
சந்தியா, சுந்தர்?
உங்கள் குழந்தையின் தேவைகளைப் பூர்த்தி செய்ய முடியுமா?
உங்கள் சொந்த மேல்?

முதல் சந்திப்பை நடத்துவோம்,
பையனும் நானும்,
எங்கள் சொந்த தனிப்பட்ட வாழ்த்துக்கள்,
பின்னர் நாங்கள் அங்கிருந்து செல்கிறோம்.
இது மனித காரியம்.
நீங்கள் மனிதரா என்று நான் கேட்க வேண்டுமா?
சரி தயவு செய்து ஆரம்பிக்கலாம்,
அம்மாவின் பால்கனியில்.
லித்யா அவனை அழைத்து வரலாம்.
சில நிமிடங்கள் பேசலாம்
தனியுரிமையில்,
அவருடைய புதிய யூடியூப் வீடியோவை என்னால் அவருக்குக் காட்ட முடியும்,
பின்னர் அவள் அவனை திரும்ப அழைத்து வரலாம்.
பின்னர் நாங்கள் அங்கிருந்து செல்கிறோம்,
நான் கூறியது போல,
இதயத் துடிப்பில்
நித்திஷ்.

I Give You Sandiya

Get her to speak with me.
Ger her to understand
her fear of losing Nithish
makes her abuse Nithish.
She says she’s stopped beating him?
It’s not a conscious choice she makes.
She gets angry
and loses control of herself
and beats him.
It’s her character.
He will tell that.

Now, about abuse:
she will not let him see me,
even for a short visit,
so to abuse him for preferring me over her.
Yes momma I’m happy with you.
What he’s really saying:
yes momma I’m scared of you.
Why won’t he mention daddy?
Why won’t he fight for the right to see daddy?

I cannot speak of him
in front of you,
and I’m on his side.
You don’t understand I cannot speak.
The fear of you is so big inside,
the fear of you mother,
who has beat me, slapped me, brainwashed me
for these past two months,
so much so I cannot even speak,
physically cannot speak,
on daddy’s side
in front of you.
I am too scared of you.

Now Sandiya is this my muse talking or is this Nithish?
Are you hiding from yourself the truth?
Nithish loves you but prefers to be with me.
Nithish is happy with me.
He is not very happy with you.
Nithish wants to live with me
and visit you.
These things are facts
in that boy’s mind and heart,
and stop lying to yourself about it.
He feels that way.

When you make him speak against his will,
you smother his identity and abuse him.
Abuse is more than the hit of a hand
or the handle of a genital.
It’s forcing that child to do things against his will.
It’s suppressing him own identity.
It’s not letting him be who he is.
It’s making him be who you want him to be.
You are so self-satisfied,
so sure you have his loyalty,
but when you kept him from even greeting me,
after two months of such emotional torment,
his and mine,
you crossed the line.
He will tell on you now.
Wait and see.

But why does it have to come to that?
Can you just put a stop to your hate and desire for revenge?
Can you consider the welfare of your child
more than you needing your child?
Can you do what’s best for Nithish?
You know that is seeing and being with me.

It doesn’t mean he’s not with you.
It just means your fantasy that he’s your baby is not true.
He’s his own self
and is too big to be someone’s baby.
I am a man,
and at his age,
he identifies with more with males.

His father has been a weekend dad all his life.
I have been with that boy hundreds of days more than his father,
and whatever you say about the boys I’ve raised,
Sundar is a murderer.
He has killed at least four people my advocate told me.
What a role model for Nithish,
and now he’s using his gang
to threaten Asiya,
to beat him up or even kill him,
and you yourself Sandiya are giving that threat.
What business is this for good parents?
That is evil and you know it.
Asiya did not hurt you,
did not give you heart pain or grief,
only helped me to ease mine,
to do the right thing
and help Nithish and I see each other,
and you know that is good and proper in God’s eyes.

Can I show you a hidden example?
A mutual friend Sudhan,
you gave him a story to give to me.
Call up daddy.
Tell him you went in my house for a drink of water.
Nithish was there alone.
Tell him you asked Nithish about daddy.
Nithish said I only love my mother,
and I don’t care about anything else,
a blatant big lie,
a spinning web of psychological manipulation.
Now Sudhan told me you had him do this to me.
Imagine what you are doing to Nithish.
This is just one example.
When this is over,
people will come forward with more.
You’re being evil Sandiya,
just evil.

You are willfully being bad,
as bad as you can to me,
for reasons I don’t clearly understand.
You would kill me if you could get away with it.
That’s how much you hate me.
Is it at bottom
really because
Nithish prefers me
to you?
Is that the reason for all this hate?

Now pull him up on the carpet.
Ask him to reassure you again
how much he loves you.
How many times have you done that?
Do you chose me over daddy, do you chose me over daddy,
do you chose me over daddy?
He’s very afraid of you.
He will tell you whatever you want to hear,
because he’s scared of you,
not because he loves you.
You say if he spent time with me away from you
he would change his mind.
What does that mean?
He would realize how he truly feels,
and you are scared of that?
You are not secure in his loyalty to you,
are you?

In the eyes of God,
please,
allow Nithish and I to see each other without your interference,
just for a short time the first time.
Then we can go from there,
and we can make peace again in our family
for the children’s sake.
It’s up to you Sandiya.
It’s your decision.
You hold the power
for now.
Will you do what’s right?

Hear a dog’s life.
We question Nithish.
He’s on the short end of the stick at home,
the author of all these Facebook problems.
He’s in trouble.
He suffers so much for loving me.
His mother ruins him for it.
What can I do but cry?

Okay I have the strength of poetry,
and I’m using it for Nithish.
You think I’m stupid,
a fool,
just some crazy old man?
I love my boy,
and if it comes to that
I will lay down my life for him
to get him the help he needs.

He’s lost so much weight.
He looks hollow and empty inside
by the look on his face.
I hear his behavior is erratic.
He’s volatile and tells lots of lies.
He’s not sure of himself.
A personality change has occurred
since he was taken from my home
a happy and plump little boy.
The mother is ignoring this,
his state,
his rapid deterioration.

To anyone that confronts her
about letting the boy see me,
she’s flies off the handle
and screams at them to stay out of it,
even to close relatives.
That’s the mother he has.
Now that’s Sandiya.
Can you please help?

The Poet of a Sunrise

photos by the author
What happened
at your advocate's office?
He was threatened,
when you came alive he was threatened.
He had to obey his mother.
Is that the real card?
You thwarted her.
You put yourself there not the mission.
It was all your fault,
never mind her cruelty.

Why do you allow her that?
Why does she have all the power?
You’re not being fair,
and it has never changed,
and I got no help there.
So blame it on me,
but You could’ve helped.
You could’ve done something.

Why die?
Because I’m lost him,
and I cannot live without him,
and it’s the betrayal of the universe,
the betrayal of God.
There’s a spider there.
She believes it,
does not see how inhuman she has become.

To not even allow you to embrace after all that pain,
two solid months of grief?
She kept him behind her
and even put her hand over his face
so you could not see each other
when he tried to look at you from behind her.
No one will show her cruelty to her.
We just want you to feel certain effects,
and We allow this.

Yesterday was your tragic happening,
and you did that tragically.
The list’s off the end.
I know to pleasure that,
so I know I’ve done the right thing.
There is no possibility.
There is no possibility.
There is no possibility.
He’s deleted everything
except the system delete.
Go in the freezer please.

Open your account.
You’re a fish.
You’ve got to give maybe.
He needs your care and attention.
This number’s strong.
Please try later.

This is the stage of real power.
This is the lonely winter stage.
It’s about who’s going to the stationary shop
and buying him metals and honor.
I can do that.
No, no, my hair’s growing.
Lydia
will fight me for it.
I’m not concerned with that.
I’m concerned with your future.

People this is imaginary pool.
He hasn’t told me these things in the outer world.
I look at him in spiritual vision,
and I hear him tell me things.
Lydia I think you’ve punished him for that.
You have a primitive mindset,
all of you,
and you don’t understand the power of poetry.
I have restored everything to show you.
These poems here might be valued long after you are gone.

What that boy is is a poet,
to a degree that most childs aren’t.
Here is a poem that speaks of the future.
It’s talking directly about
Sandiya taking Nithish from me,
and the way that we find peace from that,
how to do it.
It is written in poetic symbols.
You will only recognize the last line
as him talking about what’s going on today.

Read this poem and tell me
he has no future here;
this is the stupid babbling of a child;
this does not show that he has any talent whatsoever;
this is just a piece of garbage.

The argument I am having
with his mother and father
is over his future.
I can give him American citizenship,
a U.S. passport to travel the world,
a university education in America
if he so choose.
I will not shove school down his throat.

I also give to him
the status of a poet,
not his future self,
the child Nithish today.
What is a poet?
A person all honor
and hold in high esteem.
They write the culture
and give it direction and meaning.
They hold out their hand
and presidents and prime ministers kiss it.
They are the special meaning
the world awaits
with honor.

I give that to Nithish.
His parents can’t.
They are concerned with possession, rules, and school.
I have his department.
I not only know what he wants.
I can give it to him.
They know now he loves me,
wants to be with me
and has this whole time.
They punish him and punish him now
simply because he loves me.
That is not fair.
That is not right,
and I’m sorry you have to see this,
two parents doing this to their child,
from waves of jealousy
and hatred of the foreigner.
Here I am,
and here is his poem
take us to the future.

Paradise Things With Lyrics
by S. Nithish

Reach for peace,
but it’s a long jump away.
It’s One stairs.
Butterflies are our airplanes.
They’re peaceful and calm.
They can fly us to space.
From there we need to walk.

There’s a place for everybody in the world.
I did two steps:
let the Light be the guide;
my place is out of this world.
We all have something that we should pass on.
I do not have a turnoff button.

The ancient minds were better.
They left out clues for us.
They left out clues around the world.
We should always say thanks.
Stars were meant to be together.

He Would Not Even Speak to Me

This is a photo of Nithish my advocate took at his office last night, May 7. He has lost so much weight, the hollow look on his face and in his eyes I cannot stop crying over. He did not look like this when his mother took him from my house.

I am very embarrassed to explain, but I lost control of my emotions in a meeting with the mother and the boy and my advocate. When she entered, she kept the boy behind her, using her hand to put over his face so he could not see me. I went behind him and put my hands on his head, and she quickly maneuvered so that I couldn’t touch him. There had been a second, when he was on the stars behind his mother, that he gave a week smile, but after that he pretended I was not even there.

The mother, boy, and the advocate went to the office, and I stood near the door, until they shut it. I could hear the boy crying and then the advocate shouting at him. Then I and my grown son was called into the office. I just looked at Nithish, who was trying to pretend I wasn’t there. I could not take that, and I began asking him to please speak to me, say anything but say something, and he would not. I asked him is he loved me, and he gave a weak yes, and then I began asking him about his mother hitting him with a flat board, what he had told to me to begin by in a phone conversation the very night before. He nodded a weak yes, that the advocate saw but not the mother, and when she turned her head to look at him, he stopped assenting. I told him that he had told me to do that, and he would speak, and he nodded his head again, and when the mother looked, he stopped.

I had pulled out my phone in the beginning of the meeting, and my advocate told me not to make a video. But then I saw the mother holding her phone like she was making one, and I knocked it out of her hands across the room. Then She took Nithish by the arm to leave, but I blocked her, telling the advocate that he saw the boy’s being abused and brainwashed, and I asked him to call child welfare. He refused. He physically took a hold of me and began moving me out of the office so the mother could leave with the boy, in a way that I could have to contact, even be near him. I was trying my best to keep her from taking him out of that office. I failed, and they left, and then I was severely dressed down for my actions by the advocate, asking me if I wanted to go to jail, and I was told once again, that in India, you can do anything about child abuse, not matter if it’s illegal or not.

I tried to explain that I am not India, am an emotional American, and that for two months I had been in severe emotional distress, getting calls from my boy to help him, and here I just could not not hug him or greet him, how impossible that was for me. I had to get him to speak to me.

So, it’s now over, and I am returning to America in the fastest possible way. I have to get away from this pain that boy giving it to me. If he won’t help, then I can do nothing for him. I’m sorry. I did my very best, and no one out there would help either. I never even got a single comment for support in any of these posts describing this tragic situation.

Message to Nithish

This I put on my Facebook timeline and tagged everyone in his neighborhood that I am friends with, and I also sent it as a WhatsApp message to everyone near him I’m connected to on WhatsApp. There is still little chance he will see it. I am not Tamil, and that makes the decisions around here. His mother tells people they cannot give him message of me, even mention my name to him, and people comply. They are not educated or cultured, are urban village, are the same crowd that watched his mother pour hot wax on him to punish him when he was a toddler. No one corrected her. I saw her light a match, blow it out and burn him with it when he was three. I really got onto to her for that, and speaking to Nithish about it some months back, he told him that wasn’t the half of it, and he told me of the hot wax and how the people on his street just watched his mother do things like that to him and say nothing. So it’s no surprise they say nothing now. It’s just tragic.

For those who have only seen this one post, two months ago tomorrow my little boy, Nithish, 12, was taken from my home by his mother because she had made a sex video of her younger son masturbating, and I did not want Nithish exposed to that. He was there when the video was made, and I wanted to make sure that stopped as far as he was concerned. So I took my advocate to talk to her about the schedule of parenting. At that moment, I had him on the week days, and they the weekends. His mother had informed me some days before that they wanted to change it to he would be with me one day a week. I only mentioned the video in the discussion of our differences in parenting, did not say anything about it at all because she immediately began screaming to get out of her house, out of her family, and that she would take Nithish, which she did about an hour later.

She has not allowed visits, phone calls, or, like I said, anyone to talk to the boy about me. She keeps repeating that she will not allow me to spend one second with Nithish, and here in India, she has that power. Parental rights override the welfare of the child. He has been able to call me in secret to tell me about the abuse he’s received since he was taken and to ask me for help to get him out of there. I have really tried, and today I was finally at court, but only in the parking lot talking to senior advocate who may help. I am a nigger here, and please do not get offended at that word because, although I am not enslaved or beaten, it does describe the level of discrimination I face here in trying to to just talk to my boy. Can you possibly imagine how it feels to not even be able to talk to your child in a photograph, and I was there the night he was born, began parenting him when he was three, have been the main parent since he was seven. The pain of this several previous poems attempt to give some picture of. Imagine how the boy feels. That hurts the most.

We See the System Now

photos by the author
And Hear It
Voice Record
This is an audio recording of a telephone conversation between Nithish and I on April 20th, where he’s had to sneak to call me, where discovery is near, and we both are very upset and frustrated. Please pardon us, we are doing the best that we can.

Central to understanding the poem below is not only the above recording, but also a recorded telephone conversation in Tamil between the parents, Nithish, and my oldest (unofficially adopted) son, who’s 30. In the conversation Nithish is made to speak against his will. He’s frightened and not himself. We had gotten a local police station to do a meditation with the mother. She came, and my advocate, my grown son, two cops, and I had a very intense discussion with her, and after we left, she brought Nithish and had him tell the cops that if he saw me on the street he would not speak to me, and that he did not want to visit his former home here at the lake.

They did not speak to him away from his mother as they told us they would do, and we were not told of any other questions that they asked him, as it’s obvious he did not just sit down and tell them that. I’ve discovered that they began by asking him if he loved me, and he said yes, and if he were happy with me, and he said yes, and if I ‘bothered’ him, and he said I did not sexually abuse him, knowing what the cop meant. I cannot tell you how I know he was also asked these things, but I know he was.

Then, in the phone conversation I’m describing, which took place last night at midnight, he was made to say he was happy with his mother and did not ever want to see me again, and that her taking him out late at night to allow him to drive the bike and buy him ice cream the first few nights after he was taking from my house was what he asked her to do, even though she never did this with him before taking him from me, not one single time. Lydia, his auntie, his mother’s sister, had told me she did this immediately after taking him from me, and she asked her sister what she was doing, and the mother replied he felt bad, and she was making him feel better.

The other day, I found out it was because he was crying for me, and I told Lydia this the day before the phone conversation I’m describing. She obviously told Sandiya, and so Sandiya is trying to cover that base too. That his mother is even having him saying this just shows how sick she is being with her son. In all he says on the phone, which is less than a minute in the conversation, it’s obvious he’s being forced to say it and doesn’t want to. Even if you don’t know Tamil, when you hear the kid speak, you know he’s being made to lie. I give you this background so you can understand the poem below and the tragic position the boy is now in.

Douglas,
I’m flatten for a reason.
I have evidence
I need daddy.
Something’s
wrong with me
only he can fix.
Please daddy believe me.
You’re accused in the yard.
Come back to me now
in front of your parents
or else
this may not end well.

Where do we put Lydia?
In the phone conversation,
and don’t trust Lydia.
Bad talking to her.
Trust Nithish on the phone.
That’s his real voice,
when he’s speaking to me in a private conversation,
not the prompted speech.
Going to the station,
did Nithish make a complaint against me?
They didn’t explain any class action suit.
It doesn’t surprise me.
It’s not gonna court.
He loves me,
and that’s not what they wanna hear.

All this money,
who raped him?
Who raped him?
A voice recording
you mentioned in class
and the muse in a poem.
That’s prompted all this drama.
Tell me,
what did Nithish say?
They’re not stupid.
They can get in trouble.
They can get in trouble for mentioning things.
There’s scared of what he said,
Nithish.

When I’m on the phone with him,
it wasn’t to take him to a liquor store.
He’s giving me plans on how to get him out of there,
out from under the control of his parents,
who’ve done devious things to him.
I tell him my plans,
and we renew our bond,
so glad to hear each other’s voice.
What’s the Mr. Mystery here?
That the boy calls me at all.
His parents don’t want to believe that,
but of course they know it’s true.
What does it mean to them?
They are forcing him to say things against his will
in anything concerning me.
He is afraid to tell them his true feelings
because he’s terrified at what they might do to him.
Can we get an arraignment here?

I was called last night
and given a voice recording
of Sandiya and Sundar
forcing the boy to tell lies
that he knows are lies.
I’ve been raising him since he was a small boy.
Our relationship grew into that,
but they made him say
they let him live with me solely for the sake of school,
that I would facilitate that.

And other thing,
my advocate, Douglas, Mithun, Nithish,
Sandiya, Sundar, and I,
sat down here at the lake and had a talk
near on seven months ago.
We wanted him here
during the week,
with his parents on the weekends,
and we wanted to home school him.
I mentioned to his mother death threats and abuse
that had been going on,
that she and Sundar had been doing
to Nithish.
She immediately capitulated
and said the schedule would go back
to him with me during the week,
and with them on the weekends,
but not home school him.

On the phone the boy was made to say
he spent the weekdays with me
solely to help him prepare for his final exams.
These people are grasping for straws,
change their story every time you turn around.
Sandiya was saying,
before this,
she took Nithish from me because I took him out of school,
because I had turned him against school,
because I was a bad influence on him in regards to school,
and I kept brainwashing him that he had dyslexia.
What happened to that story?

Sandiya and Sundar you are a piece of cake.
You’re not intelligent enough to muster
a good defense for taking Nithish from me.
We go back to a child sex video
the mother had made of her son Mithrin, three.
It was all in fun she said,
play,
no sexual intentions behind it,
although it’s child porn
on any scale you look at,
explicit child porn.
What do you do with that?

In a conversation with the mother
and my advocate,
I didn’t want the scheduled changed,
and Nithish comes to me only one day a week.
I do not trust those parents.
I do not think they’re good parents,
but I was not keeping Nithish from them.
I wanted the schedule to remain the way it was.
I had him four days.
They had him three.
I had him on the weekdays.
They had him on the weekends.
In the conversation I mentioned the video,
did not say one word about it except Nithish had given it to me
and had told me about his father doing
the nature of the video with his little brothers.
I wanted to point out that’s bad parenting.
I wanted to say I didn’t want Nithish exposed to that,
but I did not get the chance to speak.
On mentioning the video,
and her realizing what I was mentioning,
she began screaming
“Get out of my house!
Get out of my family!”
And she would take Nithish from me,
which she did
at my house
on the farm
about 45 minutes later.
That was the reason she took ‘im.
She thinks I was blackmailing her.
We have her recorded in phone conversations
saying that over and over.
Now what do you do with that?
You call a spade a spade.

Listen to me
Sandiya and Sundar,
I’m going to protect that boy.
Your lies, your subterfuge,
will not get in the way.
You are not good to him.
You are not good for him.
He was publicly humiliated
in his chair,
and life,
the feeling of life,
you took from him.
He is on the verge of a mental breakdown.
You have split him in two.
His one person with me
and another person with you.
You’re too primitive to realize that.

Now here’s the cat in the hat.
I’ve been with that boy most of his life,
and he has loved me dearly.
That’s been public view.
Oh amma and appa I never wanna see him again,
what does it sound like?
Brainwashing.
Oh amma and appa of course I want to see him.
I just wanna live with you
and just see him sometimes,
but I have loved this man for so many years.
Of course I’d like to see him.
Do you see the Hitler here,
the Nazi brainwashing technique?
Never wanna see me again?
That’s not normal,
after such a close bond
for so many years.

Can I introduce you to parental alienation
in this classic brainwashing technique?
The parents are just being primitive,
cavemanish.
They don’t know they fill a type.
This is happening all over the globe
to children everywhere,
parental alienation,
Nazi in its underpinnings.
Now here you can see it plain as day.
What are you gonna do about it?
Put a like at my machine?
We need some real help.
but first we need you to see
this little boy’s in big trouble,
psychologically,
can’t you see?

I love you Nithish.
We need to reach peace,
and it’s been a long jump away.
The message is
You have so show your parents you love me
and want to see me.
There is no other way.
The divine will not help until you do.
You have to be bigger than your parents.
You have to come out of primitive humanity.
You are in the world to make a difference in the world,
not to enjoy nice food and pleasures,
like they’re the reason you live.
You’re in a tomb Nithish,
and you need to come back from the dead.
You need to confront yourself.
You need to be Nithish,
unified and singular,
the boy that you are,
not a boy with two personalities
you have been in this custody dispute.
That’s dangerous.

That’s psychological trauma.
I do not want to get you in trouble,
but you have to be yourself Nithish,
and I give the recording for that.
Don’t blind it.
It’s a zombie test.
Your witness.
Admit I mean something to you,
and I’m an important person in your life.
Stop lying about that
because you’re scared of your parents.
You are dangerously close
to big mental problems.
I’m the one who heals you Nithish,
but you know that don’t you?
And that’s why you’re reachin’ out.
Now we can all stand erect
when that trauma’s been put out.
Do you get me baby dog?
That’s the unit
no strings attached,
a true healing measure.
You’ve got your record.

Dreams of a lifetime
are not in your corner now Nithish.
They have been removed from your seeing
by your parents’ insistence on me
being taken completely out of your life.
I put the video for that reason,
for your future Nithish.
The advocacy is there.
No, no I’m sorry,
you asked me to put a man there
to help you get out of there.
He’s here my baby dog.
Let’s listen to him.
He’ll be there in a few minutes.

You can see the permission I get.
Sandiya, Lydia,
what rendezvous point?
I have punishment for them.
No they will not be beat with a stick.
They will hear what they have done to your life.
A doctor will tell them.
There were three of us together.
It’s me, you, and Douglas.
Help me.
Just a minute I’m pointing my post.
I am not some stupid rule book out to get you.
How’s he blues it?
You may never talk to me again.
You may renounce me.
You may hate me,
but love makes sacrifices,
and I’m sacrificing for you Nithish.

You, me, and Douglas were a team.
Can we go to America together?
You think about that
before you hate me forever more.
I’m writing your best interests not mine.
That’s what parents do.
They give their children their life,
even if it hurts them,
even if they may never see their child again because of it.
That’s parental love Nithish,
and it’s where I find you
in this poem.

You need help Nithish,
and I’m showin’ people you need that
in a love poem to you.
Psychological damage,
does anybody deny it?
I love you so very much Nithish,
even more than seeing you.
I am only crying right now.
What more can I say?
I have hurt myself so much posting this poem.
Would you please look my way?

Daddy’s afraid
of Nithish.
I grew up with this statement.
I see the father in him
wanting me to be safe
at all costs,
even where he loses me.
Oh daddy I understand.
Don’t be afraid.
My parents have not killed my love for you,
and they never will.
I love you daddy.
I wanna see you again.

It was a simple record
come open
when you know your child’s in danger.
I’ve stood up for him.
I’ve laid down my life.
Is that parental love?
No one will grant me that because I’m a foreigner and I love boys,
what that used to mean
before it was tainted.
I gather you in the right way.
I’m not a fiend, a monster, a smuck.
I’m not an abuser of boys.
That life has changed.

I love him
in the meaning of that word,
and there is no difference
than the love God has for you
and the love I have for this boy.
Oh my God,
the sacrifice of love.

I’m a helmet for him
to protect him from this abuse,
this psychological trauma
that everyone’s ignoring that’s happening.
I give you my all.
I show you everything.
I do not hold back.
Will you please help my boy?

Let’s Grab Nithish

photo by the author
Why lift the boundaries? (vision with the line of a wave of birds, thousands of them, coming up from the ground and into the sky in one solid waterfall-like movement but going up. This happened as I was sitting on a park bench)
To go through life together under the Sun.
To be ourselves with other people,
but ourselves alone too.
To give that boy what he needs,
and he needs an involved I love you son
wrapped around me.
To change the world.
We’re not messin’ around.

Now have we been put on hold,
for the umpteenth time?
Will I awake?
Call me,
senior advocate.
Very closely nearly there.
You better let me.
I’ll delete everything,
and you got your seer no more.
What is it,
a love reaction?
You’ve betrayed the very essence of reality
in my fundamental makeup,
in my fundamental see,
if we don’t come together,
and I will know that the world is a fucked place we’re doomed.

And if we set ‘em sir,
and if they’re not here,
what is their placement?
You can sit us in your organizing society,
and we will show you where we rose.
We’ll be here
master plan.

I’m getting close I can’t stay yours.
I’m a learning disability.
Daddy do something about that girl. (vision with the line of a big man walking beside me with a black beetle in his mouth, and he was choking on it, and I was slapping his back to get it out)
You’re dyslexic that’s okay.
Your mother can’t punish that no more.
I will take you with me,
and you can be dyslexic in my school.
I love you so very much.
Next week,
I promise.

Start happening!
Start happening!
I looked at it, [this line and the two above lines heard spoken in Nithish’s voice]
and exactly
as you said
it happened.
I want to know what your vision was.
Momma laid her feet on me.
All’s I could feel
was our deep, undying love
taking me to the lake.
I will be there soon.

You will paint some rosy picture that I am to blame.
I’m a Facebook mob.
Oh I’m sorry, seven views.
On WordPress there’s two.
And Nithish,
I see him now.
His mother has replaced me,
and he let her do it.
The hugs, the kisses, the warm rubs,
the excited talk about this and that,
that woman who beat him has replaced me,
and he’s happy with it.
I can see the treatment.
He’s a baby
Sandiya told me on the phone.
She’s gettin’ her juice.
Before she would not even admit he was still a child.

Okay they go together.
What am I still doing here?
What the fuck, over?
You have replaced all my lands.
You have taken my very child
and given that place I have with him
to someone else,
and they beat him and they slap him,
and they lord it over his life.
What more do you want from me?
Why do I have to see that?

I have been betrayed in the sense of my stuff,
by a little boy that took all of my heart
and always wanted more.
Where is release from this?

He’s still won’t speak my name to his parents.
Get that,
won’t even say he wants to see me,
the love of his life for all these years.
What blackness is in the heart of children?
What cruelty lurks behind their touch,
wizziles with you in their face?

This is blind cruelty.
The boy just wants to get by.
To hell with me,
as long as he gets his good food
and bag of sweets
and special treatment.
He’s cast me aside,
and I made so much noise,
whenever he called,
it forced him to call me
and come out of his stupor
face me a moment,
come out of his animal bliss.

We’re dealing with a kid from the train yard.
Whatever divine element in him,
he has just gotten rid of.
What do you do with such a kid?
He will never speak up.
He’s satisfied.
He’s got his parents’ attention,
and is the focus of so much love,
even if it’s for his parents to have him and not for him.
This operation sucks.

Do we rock that poem on Main Street
and show it to the kid?
I’m not happy with this boy.
He’ll walk the room
listening for phone calls,
listening for Nithish.
Man-managed plan
develop on rainbows.
Let’s look at that replacement line.
Ruth, this is daddy.
Now I’ll call you mother.
There a step-mother sleeps.
And you never got close to her,
but you were dependent,
a little child,
and you had to look to someone to take care of you.
She was mean.
She was a monster,
but you called her mother,
and that was your choice.

You hated the relationship.
You cried and cried.
You really tried to please her,
took her assessment of you
as conscious fact,
believed her
when she came crashing down on you
for just leaving your boats in the yard:
you were a bad boy.

She saw you naked,
washed your back in the tub.
She combed your hair before school in the morning
and fussed over your clothes,
and you hated that woman.
You were 10 and 11, no?
She was just so mean to you.
“Get up you little bastard it’s time for school.”
“I know you like a book.
You’re no good,
and your father’s no good.”
That really sucked.

The constant tirade
coming out of her mouth
she flushed at you,
anytime you were in earshot,
that did you in.
You hid in the woods for hours,
until your father came home,
and he was no gentle lover.
A stern man with whippin’s,
that’s what he gave.

Now look at Nithish.
He’s making the best of a bad situation.
He’s being punished for loving you,
and no one seems to notice that.
In his heart it’s liberation towards you,
like you felt towards your mother,
only she didn’t want you back,
was not on the edge of consciousness night and day
trying to carry your pain.
That boy has got you,
and you’re all he’s got.

Can we mention this
to the world at large?
A boy has a man he’s loved all his life,
who’s taken care of him more than his parents,
and for that he has been so traumatized
that he’s died inside.
He’s still loves this man,
and so much time his parents have spent
to kill this in him.
What the fuck, over?
Are you listening to this?
Can they do that?
Just because he loves me
he’s gone through so much punishment,
gaslighting,
brainwashing,
and psychological torture:
here boy, love this man?
Let’s go to a fine restaurant.
I’ll take you to a spa.
Forget him, forget him, forget him.

But it doesn’t work,
and the parents are frustrated.
They don’t know their son.
Okay we just ride this,
let it be?
The boy’s better off
just doing his school work?
I beg your pardon?
You put a child through hell
and say it’s for good grades in school?
That’s his reason for living,
why he can’t have this man?
That’s an eight standard education talking,
his mother’s.
This man is a Classical Greek scholar,
and knows dyslexia when he sees it.

Oh beanpoles,
you will not get away with this.
I’m comin’ for that boy,
and I’m comin’ loud and clear,
and I’m bringin’ the posse,
and I’m bringin’ the cavalry,
and if Indians don’t know matters of the heart,
just say yeah beat the children,
let them lick their parents’ spoon,
Americans know better,
and they’re on the way out of this,
and that’s who I’ve employed.

Aerosmith,
it’s Aerosmith
to tell you that American thing,
lights out on total control
and ever remember your dreams.
Got some Pink Floyd here.
American music,
there’s music there for the land Earth,
and it sticks in your craw
like a love song.
You hear our anthem here.
Won’t you buy a little American pie?
We don’t doubt the man does.
Are you afraid the boy does?
And I’m not givin’ the lowdown on abuse.
That’s magic in love,
a parental man for his little son,
a big boy for his best friend,
a man and a boy who love each other.
Hear it?

We gather you in poems,
one after another.
Can you speak that far?
I don’t think you’re over the fence,
one foot process from stuck in the craw to living school.
You don’t know how.
That’s saving grace,
whether you know it or not.
Come on let’s ballon,
and let’s give this keeper his time shares.
He’s keepin’ a boy safe from harm.
You know his mother reads this,
reluctantly,
somehow,
despite herself.
We take her there.
For the poems now. (vision with the line of someone offering two Rupees notes, one a large denomination and the other a bit smaller, but it was big money)
I get paid in regard
and help this little boy,
not a baby in the room,
not even a chair.

He’s been taken out of the picture by his mother,
and no one can question him a thing
about where his mother is taking him,
if she’s not in the room.
A boy of 12 see that,
no will of his own,
year there’s a civilization on record,
mluv pomaleji prosím. (vision with the line of being on a bicycle and turning to my passenger behind me and saying that Czech phrase, putting my finger to my lips so to say be quiet).
May I help you with that?
Expressive of their will is expressive of their life.
Don’t deny them that,
and you’re off to the races.
Don’t put down later.
Pretty much
give him to the public.
Hey, what color of a shirt didn’t he didn’t wearing today?
The color his parents choose for him.
A raccoon
was not a ground speaker,
but he lifted up his head.
The voice is in the room.

Is that what you want society,
another person dependent upon society
to be his mother?
No will of his own,
that blooms.
He can’t find himself.
He might even kill you,
the manhood takes its stand.
Robbed of his will
right there where he becomes a man,
just entering the body changes of adolescence.
Can you say that?
Just tell me what to do okay,
that’s what we hear.
Sure society,
that’s what you want,
a world of beggars please.
Let’s study this room.
See Nithish.

Okay Nithish,
I forgive you son.
It’s not your fault.
You’re not to blame,
and I will see you soon.

The Roots of Pain

No more Nithish, an empty room and bed
I am in my own city now.
I have to get Nithish out of my consciousness or else
insanity looms.
I cannot carry him anymore.
This is painful.
I'm all out of sorts.

We have reconciled.
He stood by while a cop tried to arrest me
and said nothing.
His mother had put the cop there
because I had spoke to Nithish
at his school,
there to speak with his principal
about the real reason his mother wouldn't let me see him,
and I was concerned with her abuse.

As the cop tried to put me on his bike
to take me away,
Nithish was walking away
and did not even look back.
I had committed no crime,
and so they could not take me in.
Sandya stood by gloating,
and then walked away disappointed
when I wasn't nabbed.

The consciousness can't take that.
It doesn't compute.
I am finished holding him.
This is terrible news.
I had gone there to defend him,
and I was worried sick
over his situation.
He all but pulled the trigger.

And I am left holding the gun.
Nithish showed me a video
on his mother's phone,
which had gone to him.
It was of his little brother masturbating,
legs spread, penis erect,
hand going at it.
Sandya can be heard in the background laughing,
but she didn't take the video.
It's child pornography,
but she said they did it in fun.

I've heard about for the last three years
Nithish's father masturbating his little brothers,
not diddling with it pumping it,
for several minutes or more.
He had tried to do Nithish,
but Nithish said no.
I did nothing with this information,
except tell Nithish to say no.
When Mithrin,
the boy in the video,
who's three and some,
got big enough,
his father masturbated him a lot,
and Dhina,
Nithish's auntie's husband,
taught the boy how to spit on it and rub.
Nithish told me these things.
I heard all this,
and just filed it away.

Dhina made the video,
and now I'm left holdin' the gun.
Do I shoot them with it?
I don't want to hurt Nithish.
So what do I do?
I just leave the boy alone.
I don't stand here and study him.
I don't try to get him back to me.
It's over.
It's done.

Okay you've heard the news,
why Nithish was taken from me.
I mentioned that video to his mother
and his father masturbating his brothers,
to try and protect him from them.
You see the results.
Even the boy hates me,
but I don't truly know that.
Okay shoot me, public.
I am the bad man here,
turning that little boy against his family,
and wanting him to go with me.

I thought I had a better home,
and I wasn't his abuser,
but you know kids are fickle.
They hang on that family tree.
I'm a nigger to him,
a வெள்ளைக்காரன்,
and he just wants to be left alone.
He's happy with the presents his parents buy him
and the cater to his whim.
And pain?
Fuck pain.
He wants his smile to be real.

So you have a masturbating video
as the cause of all this charm
that he's getting from his parents.
They don't want him to tell on them,
and they want his love for me gone.
Well that did it,
no word from him in days:
daddy are you okay?
what happened?
I've been so worried about you.

He's just decided better go with it,
his refusal of me.
It's easier that way.
Just ignore me
and enjoy himself.
I will never hear from him again.
I can see that now.
I've done my job,
every possible thing I could do,
to get him out of his parents' clutches
and back towards the poet of the coming dawn,
a destiny he had refused.

Now what do I do with this?
I know the public you don't care.
You would also have me arrested
if you could.
This may be my last poem.
I'm throwing in the towel.
We tried.
We finished,
and I failed.

Now glory in your self-righteousness,
and tell me again you love kids.
I don't believe that.
Okay now I'm leavin' my little boy.
You will not help,
but I think I know what happened.
He was totally afraid of his mother,
that boy of twelve.
There at the school
she told him to renounce me
and raised her hand to slap him.
I grabbed that hand and pulled it down,
and he did not give her what she wanted.
She even put her hand over his face,
so he couldn't see me.
That's total control,
and he had to go home with her afterwards.

What does a child do when the shit hits the fan?
They stand there and cry,
Ben 10 not included,
or the Avatar and his gang.
Nithish showed kid shock.
He was just bewildered.
He managed a weak head-bowed yes
when I asked him if he loved me,
and would he back me up.
That was before the cop came.
We were invited into the office
to settle this dispute,
by the principal before that cop arrived,
but that Sandya refused.
She wanted me arrested
for defying her to see my boy.

We can't blame this on the kid.
He's innocent in this,
and I don't know how he feels now,
but I can't continue hurting him and me.
I can't love him like this.
That little boy's been broken,
stabbed in his identity,
made to feel all alone in the world,
put down for trying to hurt his parents,
and at the same time they lift him up,
afraid he'd tell.

What do we do with children,
when they're in a bad situation,
and our helping them hurts them more?
We leave.
We tear our heart out of our breast,
put blinders on the soul,
and just walk away.
That's what I'm doing today.
You with me?

Here is the address where the mother and the boys live and Sandya’s telephone number:
+91 9384460042
64 Nettu St.
Kurusukuppam,

Puducherry, 605012

The street is only a tiny alleyway accessible from Advocate Chinnathambi St. Fourth Cross. On Sardar Vllabhai Patel Salai, a main road, turn left on Francois Martiin Street. Turn left again on Advocate Chinnathambi Street, about 500 meters from the Patel Salai. Go to Le Nid Apartments on Advocate ChinnaThambi Street, which is on the left where the street turns sharply right. Stand facing the apartment gates and turn right 90 degrees and you will see a little alleyway in front of you. Go down it and it immediately turns left and her house is the first door on the left. It is a very narrow alley. Time is of the essence. They are on their way to his father’s apartment in Chennai to avoid me. His address: Ashok Pillar 29 sector, 6th block Chennai, 2nd apartment building and the left, 1st floor, wooden door.